Sometimes “Happily Ever After” Takes Awhile, But It’s Worth It

Three years ago today, I FINALLY got married.

Yes, I was 30 years old and a *little* bitter over the fact that it had taken God that long to bring the right someone into my life. AND that it was taking way longer to figure out when we were going to be able to commit our lives to one another than I thought it should. In case you hadn’t noticed from my blog posts, I’m not exactly a patient person.

My poor husband-to-be. At any rate, I share that with you for good reason. Despite my acknowledgment of God and His plan being best, I rarely actually lived that. I wanted so much to be happily married, to start a family, to “start” my life.

It has been three years today that God fulfilled those dreams and those prayers. And I couldn’t be happier. Really, I couldn’t (okay, maybe if the clothes were put away more often after being laundered I would be a bit happier).

I digress. The real point of this post is to acknowledge and rejoice over this anniversary, over the life that I have now, and all that God has given me. I read a lot of blogs and I see these wonderful women talk about how wonderful their life and marriage is and how excited they are to celebrate their anniversary (as I am about to do here). And I am excited for them and happy and grateful. But I also know there are many of you out there that are thinking, “I would like to find someone”, “I wish my husband was Mr. Wonderful”, “Wow, I’d be happy if my husband ____”. And I want you to know, that those of us that love and appreciate our husbands and are celebrating the wonderful years we have had together, also have said those same things that you say.

The first few paragraphs of this post are very true for me. I wish they weren’t. However, over the last three years of marriage I have marveled at the beauty that God unfolds in our life if we simply give everything over to Him.

I am married to one of the most amazing men that has ever graced this planet. He is sweet and kind and has a patience that I have never before been witness to in my life. I get so irritated sometimes about his lack of movement or urgency, but then I realize that this same slow movement is what makes him a role model for patience and understanding. And why God saved him especially for me.

If we had gotten married earlier in life or at a different “time” in our lives, there is a very good chance that I would not have the wonderful honor and privilege of staying at home with my child(ren). It is because of the “waiting” that God made me do that these things are physically and financially possible. I am so grateful.

My husband works hard. He loves what he does and he has made a living for himself doing what he does best, creating cool websites like this one. I love that he is a dreamer, a risk taker and an achiever. I love that he works so diligently to make sure that I don’t have to.

But nothing (after his love of the Lord), and I do mean nothing, compares to my love and appreciation for his natural giftedness at being a father. I have seen this trait in him even before we had children. Kids just LOVE him. And I don’t mean kind of, I mean, flock to him. He plays with them, he teaches them, he gets down on their level and he becomes them. And I don’t mean that he becomes a kid with no sense about him acting foolishly. He gets down on their level, sees what they see and then points them in the direction of great, wonderful and adventurous things. It is a wonder to watch.

And for all that I saw him give to other people’s kids, nothing compares to what I get to witness him give to our son each and every day. Truly, he should be the stay at home parent. He is just that good.

I definitely waited 30 years to commit my life to this man, but believe me when I say, the last three have far exceeded the wait that I endured. It just doesn’t compare. So I apologize if you are sick of all the sap. I just want you to know, on today, more than any other day, that I am truly blessed to be Mrs. Benjamin Callahan. I wouldn’t trade a moment of the last three years of marriage to this man.

I hope that you can say the same of your husband. Or if you are waiting on him, know that God’s timing has a reason and a plan. And despite what you may think, it is better than  yours.

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